New Year Resolutions and How to Fail at Them

Updated: Jan 22

I'll start by saying that I don't do new year resolutions anymore. Not a fan. In fact, I have never successfully achieved seeing a new year resolution all the way through the month of January- let alone the year. Maybe it's just the way my brain works, but when I have a goal that has set parameters (in this case, that would be the time frame of a whole year), I find it abhorrently unappealing. The first time I slip up after 'committing' to a resolution I assume that I am an utter failure and allow myself to emotionally spiral until all my self confidence is drained.

Why does this matter, you ask? Why am I writing a blog about failing? It's simple, really. I am writing about failing because I am an expert at it. They always say to write what you know, right?

-Man, this woman is depressing-

Ok, but hear me out. Failure is an important part of life. Some of us (many of us) are so afraid of failing that, when we do, we use it as an excuse to quit. But it's not just that it is an excuse. It's an excuse that we believe with our whole hearts. "I quit because I am a failure. I will never succeed so I should stop trying." We lack the confidence to try again. And again. And again. Because success doesn't usually happen the first, second, third, fourth, or even fifth time.

-I've heard this all before-

I'm sure you have. And if this doesn't apply to you, I am overjoyed for you (not sarcasm, I swear). I am writing this post mostly for me, anyway. Because I need to hear it. And maybe there are a few of you out there that need to hear it too.

Let me brag about myself for a moment. I have never finished a book. I have SO MANY first chapters of different novel ideas I have had over the years. But once I get to the end of the first chapter, my mind goes blank and my creative cup is completely empty. There is a hole in the bottom of the cup, dear Liza, and I truly don't know how to mend it.

-Well geeze, that's pretty bad-

Since I am already an expert on failing, I have decided to become an expert on something else. Time for a change, right? Not because it is a new year. The whole "New Year, New You" thing never made sense to me. Shouldn't we be rewriting ourselves on a daily basis? But since I haven't been doing that, today, January 19th, 2022, I have decided to become an expert on succeeding.

Let's break that down for a minute. Success. What does that mean in the context of my life?

For me, success would look like finishing my first novel. It would look like putting forth enough effort that, instead of giving it the 'ol' college try', I give it my all. It will look like publishing my first book either traditionally or by going indie. It would mean showing myself that the first, second, third, fourth, and fifth attempts are actually just stepping stones to success. Because I am sure I will fail multiple times on my way.

So here we go. Come with me on my journey. Watch me help myself to become a better version of myself. I'll return the favor! What are your goals? What do you want with your life that you keep deciding that you don't deserve? Unless that thing is getting away with the perfect murder, you DO deserve it. If you decide to join me, I hope you fail. And fail again. And fail again. Because we only succeed off the corpses of our failures.

-That got dark-

Yes. Yes it did. But maybe the visual of using corpses as stepping stones will resonate with you. I don't know. Different strokes for different folks.

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